Take a look at this blog entry: REFRESHING THE TASKBAR NOTIFICATION AREA. I am using this code to refresh the system tray to get rid of orphaned icons and it works perfectly.
The blog entry is very informative and gives a great explanation of the steps the author performed to discover his solution.
#define FW(x,y) FindWindowEx(x, NULL, y, L"")
void RefreshTaskbarNotificationArea()
{
HWND hNotificationArea;
RECT r;
GetClientRect(
hNotificationArea = FindWindowEx(
FW(FW(FW(NULL, L"Shell_TrayWnd"), L"TrayNotifyWnd"), L"SysPager"),
NULL,
L"ToolbarWindow32",
// L"Notification Area"), // Windows XP
L"User Promoted Notification Area"), // Windows 7 and up
&r);
for (LONG x = 0; x < r.right; x += 5)
for (LONG y = 0; y < r.bottom; y += 5)
SendMessage(
hNotificationArea,
WM_MOUSEMOVE,
0,
(y << 16) + x);
}