How do I access refs of a child component in the parent component

Recommended for React versions prior to 16.3

If it cannot be avoided the suggested pattern extracted from the React docs would be:

import React, { Component } from 'react';

const Child = ({ setRef }) => <input type="text" ref={setRef} />;

class Parent extends Component {
    constructor(props) {
        super(props);
        this.setRef = this.setRef.bind(this);
    }

    componentDidMount() {
        // Calling a function on the Child DOM element
        this.childRef.focus();
    }

    setRef(input) {
        this.childRef = input;
    }

    render() {
        return <Child setRef={this.setRef} />
    }
}

The Parent forwards a function as prop bound to Parent’s this. When React calls the Child’s ref prop setRef it will assign the Child’s ref to the Parent’s childRef property.

Recommended for React >= 16.3

Ref forwarding is an opt-in feature that lets some components take a ref they receive, and pass it further down (in other words, “forward” it) to a child.

We create Components that forward their ref with React.forwardRef.
The returned Component ref prop must be of the same type as the return type of React.createRef. Whenever React mounts the DOM node then property current of the ref created with React.createRef will point to the underlying DOM node.

import React from "react";

const LibraryButton = React.forwardRef((props, ref) => (
  <button ref={ref} {...props}>
    FancyButton
  </button>
));

class AutoFocus extends React.Component {
  constructor(props) {
    super(props);
    this.childRef = React.createRef();
    this.onClick = this.onClick.bind(this);
  }

  componentDidMount() {
    this.childRef.current.focus();
  }

  onClick() {
    console.log("fancy!");
  }

  render() {
    return <LibraryButton onClick={this.onClick} ref={this.childRef} />;
  }
}

Forwarding refs HOC example

Created Components are forwarding their ref to a child node.

function logProps(Component) {
  class LogProps extends React.Component {
    componentDidUpdate(prevProps) {
      console.log('old props:', prevProps);
      console.log('new props:', this.props);
    }

    render() {
      const {forwardedRef, ...rest} = this.props;

      // Assign the custom prop "forwardedRef" as a ref
      return <Component ref={forwardedRef} {...rest} />;
    }
  }

  // Note the second param "ref" provided by React.forwardRef.
  // We can pass it along to LogProps as a regular prop, e.g. "forwardedRef"
  // And it can then be attached to the Component.
  return React.forwardRef((props, ref) => {
    return <LogProps {...props} forwardedRef={ref} />;
  });
}

See Forwarding Refs in React docs.