Instead of creating two records use a new function.
public function friends()
{
return $this->belongsToMany('User', 'friend_user', 'user_id', 'friend_id');
}
// Same table, self referencing, but change the key order
public function theFriends()
{
return $this->belongsToMany('User', 'friend_user', 'friend_id', 'user_id');
}
//You can then call opposite record(s) using:
foreach( Auth::user()->theFriends as $theFriends )
I used this approach in my project so I can have better separation for organizing the results.