You need:
$ro = preg_replace('/\s+/', ' ', $row['message']);
You are using \s\s+
which means whitespace(space, tab or newline) followed by one or more whitespace. Which effectively means replace two or more whitespace with a single space.
What you want is replace one or more whitespace with single whitespace, so you can use the pattern \s\s*
or \s+
(recommended)