By convention, Code First will take uni-directional associations as one to many. Therefore you need to use fluent API to let Code First know that you want to have a many to many self referencing association:
protected override void OnModelCreating(ModelBuilder modelBuilder)
{
modelBuilder.Entity<Member>().HasMany(m => m.Friends).WithMany().Map(m =>
{
m.MapLeftKey("MemberId");
m.MapRightKey("FriendId");
m.ToTable("MembersFriends");
}
);
}