Try the following:
private DependencyObject FindChildControl<T>(DependencyObject control, string ctrlName)
{
int childNumber = VisualTreeHelper.GetChildrenCount(control);
for (int i = 0; i < childNumber; i++)
{
DependencyObject child = VisualTreeHelper.GetChild(control, i);
FrameworkElement fe = child as FrameworkElement;
// Not a framework element or is null
if (fe == null) return null;
if (child is T && fe.Name == ctrlName)
{
// Found the control so return
return child;
}
else
{
// Not found it - search children
DependencyObject nextLevel = FindChildControl<T>(child, ctrlName);
if (nextLevel != null)
return nextLevel;
}
}
return null;
}
Then call it from the play / pause button button:
MediaElement media = FindChildControl<MediaElement>(this, "media") as MediaElement;
media.Play();