I suspect that ActiveRecord isn’t noticing that your friends
array has changed because, well, the underlying array reference doesn’t change when you:
self.friends.push(target)
That will alter the contents of the array but the array itself will still be the same array. I know that this problem crops up with the postgres_ext gem in Rails3 and given this issue:
String attribute isn’t marked as dirty, when it changes with
<<
I’d expect Rails4 to behave the same way.
The solution would be to create a new array rather than trying to modify the array in-place:
update_attributes friends: self.friends + [ target ]
There are lots of ways to create a new array while adding an element to an existing array, use whichever one you like.